My husband is nicer than me, too. We've been married 52 years. I do have redeeming qualities that he reminds me about whenever I've apologized for being quick tempered — again. I'm a low maintenance gal and a really hard worker as well as the adventurer in the family. I've drug him all over the world, to places he'd have never gone without me. Maybe it's a balance. that makes it work for some people.